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Coaching Focus for

your week

Add Value in your Life

As human beings we are drawn to each other based on the perceived value we feel we can give and get from each other in our lives..

Perceived value is made up of four attributes;

Your Insight + Your Actions + Your Impact + Your Personal Uniqueness

Your focus point for this coming week is to check in on the personal and business relationships and friendships in your life … Are you adding value to these relationships based on the above four attributes?

WIIFM…. (What’s in it for me) is not a true sense of perceived value…

CHECK IN ON WHAT IM REALLY SAYING

START CHECKING IN ON WHAT IS BEING SAID FROM THE INSIDE...

The key coaching skill of checking is tied to checking in on the underlying limiting beliefs people have about themselves. The reason it is crucial to check these is because limiting beliefs are the major inhibitor of us moving forward, growing and changing. “We can’t behave inconsistent with what we believe”, so if you have a low belief in your ability to perform, your actual performance will be low and in line with how much you believe.

The beliefs we have about ourselves and others are developed in early childhood and influenced by the following criteria;

Ø  Your education; what you were taught as a child about life and at school will become your default set of beliefs about life.

Ø  Your environment; where you grew up and the culture of the people you grew up with will influence your beliefs about people and other cultures.

Ø  Experiences; exciting, happy as well as traumatic experiences you went through growing up will shape your beliefs about future events of a similar nature.

Ø  Creative thinking; growing up we all develop our own opinions about situations often as a way to develop our independence from others. These differing opinions become your core set of beliefs that you rely on in life to differentiate yourself from others.  

Limiting and Encouraging Beliefs

Based on the above criteria, we all have some beliefs that encourage us to move forward and take action in life as well as beliefs that act as hurdles or stops signs that limit us from moving forward and taking action.

Your role in coaching others is to check in on their beliefs, motivating them with their encouraging beliefs and highlighting their limiting beliefs so they can change them. This is the great part about beliefs, they can change! “If you want to change how you behave, first change what you believe. You can’t act inconsistent with what you believe.”

Examples of limiting beliefs to look out for

Ø    “I can’t achieve that much”

Ø    I won’t be able to keep that up”

Ø    “I’ve never excelled at (Y) before”

Ø    “I’m just not good/clever/attractive enough”

Ø    “I don’t see how that is possible”

Ø    “You’re asking more than I am capable of”

The list goes on and on, but you can hear the common thread in these beliefs is a mindset of; “can’t, won’t, not able to.” When you hear these personal comments being spoken out loud your role is to mirror them back to the person and stimulate them to think about the actual truth about themselves.

There is a solution to every problem, the solution usually comes when we change and perception about the problem, which is done through changing our limiting beliefs into encouraging.

Exercise:

What do you believe about yourself that has limited you in your;

Career: ____________________________________________________

Relationships: _______________________________________________

Friendships: _________________________________________________

Personal Growth: ____________________________________________

Financial wellness: ___________________________________________

What is the actual truth about why you are limited in this situation?

Career: ____________________________________________________

Relationships: _______________________________________________

Friendships: _________________________________________________

Personal Growth: ____________________________________________

Financial wellness: ___________________________________________

What new, encouraging beliefs can you adopt to move you forward?

Career: ____________________________________________________

Relationships: _______________________________________________

Friendships: _________________________________________________

Personal Growth: ____________________________________________

Financial wellness: ___________________________________________

Checking in on your beliefs is a life-long exercise. We have beliefs about absolutely everything in life. The purpose of checking them is so that you can overcome hurdles, remove stop signs and move forward in improving your performance and reaching your goals.

Your thoughts, behaviours, results and outcomes are

entirely up to you!

There are only two weeks left to make use of your special offer to assess your thoughts.. Assessing your personal thinking style will allow you to control your behaviours more constructively, email me to book; hayley@downtheline.co.za www.downtheline.co.za

Have you ever wondered how constructive or unconstructive your thought life is?

Well now you can do an assessment to find out exactly how constructive or unconstructive you are in your thoughts..

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Clayton Lafferty, the founder of Human Synergistics International (company that created thinking styles products) said, “Your thoughts characterize who you are and shape your life. What you think determines how you perceive reality and how you relate to others, as well as how you solve problems and make decisions ... Your level of success and satisfaction is strongly tied to the nature of thoughts and self-concept.”

WHY SHOULD YOU DO THIS ASSESSMENT?

To gain a deeper understanding into how you think i.e. Constructively / Unconstructively.
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WHATS IN IT FOR YOU?

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OUR VISION

At downtheline we equip, transform, encourage and inspire our clients to live out their full, authentic potential in the broad areas of business and life skills.

OUR MISSION

To customise our training, coaching and consulting, to fill competency gaps strategically, and to meet the unique business needs of our national and global clients. 

OUR VALUES

Growth                Integrity               Team work         Commitment     Innovation          Balanced life

Who is downtheline?

We are a training, coaching and consulting company that exists to grow people and businesses for a better future.  We have become known globally for our focus on high-end sales performance and 21^st-century leadership, and currently provide products and services to countries in Europe, America and Asia.  

Our passion for growth and wisdom comes across in our ability to tailor a solution to meet our clients’ unique needs.  Our customised interventions are practical, effective and – most importantly – measurable in an organisation.  We train and coach in many business areas, including sales, customer service, strategy, organisational effectiveness, individual life skills, team thinking styles and emotional intelligence assessments.   We thrive on imparting specialist knowledge to grow our clients’ skill sets, workplace culture and attitude, purposefulness and passion.

We are accredited with the Services Seta and are a BEE level 4 contributor.

Company registration number:  CK2004/101127/23

We are members of:

·         COMENSA  

·         PSASA  

·         SABPP

We are associates of:

·         Durban Chamber of Commerce

·         KBN Connect

Why do clients prefer us?

·         23 years’ industry experience

·         Global training and coaching provider with clients in Europe, Asia, USA and Canada

·         Expert knowledge in our areas of specialisation

·         Our team-effort approach when acquiring, developing and retaining our clients

·         Our commitment to constantly meeting our clients’ customising needs

·         Our reliability, loyalty and confidentiality

·         A “whole person” approach which provides business- and life skills in tandem.